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Online Dating
As a new bachelor and being thrown into the jungle of first dates and meeting new people I wanted to get a pulse for the success rate of online dating (i.e. match, plenty of fish), networking events and sites such as this, or the more traditional bar approach.
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Permalink Reply by Brittany Waldman on
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Well I can't really offer much of a perspective for the success rate of online dating, etc. I just moved to NJ a few months ago and find myself at a loss for meeting people, so I figured I would give the online venues a shot. In the spirit of optimism, "nothing ventured, nothing gained" and I have heard a few very successful stories from friends
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Permalink Reply by Brian and Mike on
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Right now two people I know are soon to be engaged to men they met on Match.com.
You never know how you are going to meet the person that is right for you so try anything and everything and see what you like.
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Permalink Reply by Susan on
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I've done the match.com thing before - with no luck. I'd met lots of great (and not-so-great) guys, but nothing that lasted. However, I met my current boyfriend through match.com - it was an unexpected surprise - and so far, so good. I say give it a shot. What do you have to lose? :)
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Permalink Reply by Sara on
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While I definitely agree with what Rich says about going out and doing activities you enjoy, I don't think it'll hurt to try a dating site for a month and see how you like it. It's just another way to meet people. I also think any sort of outlet, such as NJYP, where you're meeting new people and doing things you enjoy is a good thing.
Good luck out there!
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Permalink Reply by Nicole Fulmino on
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Being a new bachelorette on the scene, I have been wondering the same thing. When I was in a relationship I'd say to my single friends, "oh I would totally try online dating, speed dating" etc. etc. But now that I'm here, I'm not so sure. I think the best way is just meeting people through activities or through friends. But perhaps after some time I'll feel a little more adventurous!
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Permalink Reply by Dar on
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I've tried the online dating on and off for years with not much luck. In my opinion it all comes down to luck, timing, and you need to have a very open mind because a lot of the people on those sites aren't what they appear to be. I agree with what some people have said on here and the best way to meet someone is probably through friends, events or activities that interest you. The best advice I can give is keep an open mind because you never know what can happen or where it can happen. =)
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Personally, I think this is worth the read :) I love my Oprah.
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Permalink Reply by Craig Wall on
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IMO, Online Dating is just a subset of real life like anywhere else -- you won't necessarily have more or less success online than you do using other methods.
I know a girl who met her husband on Match, an engaged couple who met on Match, and another married couple who met on Yahoo Personals. So they do work. Circumstances, like anywhere else, just have to be right. :)
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Permalink Reply by Chris Lombardi on
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I would just live your life, enjoy your hobbies and try not to rush to find that special someone. Chances are you will eventually meet someone with similar interests instead of someone on the other end of a computer screen who is most likely misrepresenting themselves so they seem more marketable for lack of better terms.
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Permalink Reply by Jessica on
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My online dating experiences weren't good. What I didn't like was the pressure of being on a first date the first time you meet that person! Despite being rather outgoing normally, I was rather shy in those situations!
I met my husband in NJYP... that worked out much better for me ;-)
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Permalink Reply by JW Scherm on
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I'd say it's worth doing. I've tried all the sites at different times with match.com and POF being my favorites. The word on POF has been spreading so membership growing in quantity and quality especially with everyone looking to same money due to the ecomony.
Being on Match the longest, its the place I've meet the most people face to face. Sadly nothing lasting beyond a few dates. I think people have come to expect this super instant connection that is more hollywood then real life. With internet dating it makes skipping on to another person right away easier than really getting to know someone and giving them a chance.
Networking oganizations like NJYP are a good way to meet people but dating is tricky. So many people become friends and intermingle that you are dating someone from a circle of mutual friends. That's great if everything works out but if it ends badly one party or the other can end up loosing a their whole circle of friends to avoid crossing paths with an X.
When internet dating keep in mind it's just like the bar! Women don't really have to do anything but post a pic. My close women friends have told me there is rarely a need to search through guys profiles. They get enough messages that they scan their inboxes and decide which guy they like best!!
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Permalink Reply by Paul Camuto on
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Wow, I can't believe all the responses I got to this. I guess we all struggle with finding that "partner". Definitely think the way to go is to put yourself out there into this network or volunteer groups and just let it happen. Going to hold off on the paid sites for a bit, done with the free ones.
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